I spoke too soon

I think in my last post I mentioned that everyone I have told has been very supportive. Well, I clearly spoke too soon. Yesterday I told someone who asked how the kids feel about it. I told them that our oldest isn't too happy. So she said "yeah, that's a really bad age. GOOD LUCK!" I guess that's not such a terrible statement, now that I am actually writing about it, I realize that it could have been much worse. It's just that this person is someone I actually admire and I expected more from her. The more I think about it, I think she is envious of us. I don't think she really wants to live in this community but for some reason she continues to stay.

Another "friend" who is involved in our kids' school said, "So, you are bailing?". She is clearly clueless. Almost everyone else has not been surprised at all. We are so NOT bailing. It is much harder for us to move than to stay here. And I'm sure that we will still support the school financially if we are still able to.

UPDATE: The same "bailing" person today called me and said "I can't believe your husband will be commuting. What kind of family life could you possibly have?" I told her that the weeks that he will be with us in Israel will include a VERY GOOD family life, better than the one we have here when he is hardly ever home.

For each negative comment I receive, though, it seems that there is a positive one. Soon after I heard the above comment, someone from the shul said, "Are you leaving us? All the good ones leave."

I just need to focus on the positive comments.